Queer AuDHD Coach Fliss - Specialising in Burnout Cycles & Creative Rest

WHO AM I?

Hi, I’m Fliss (they/she). I’m a queer, non-binary, multi-disabled, dyspraxic AuDHDer and an ADDCA- and ICF-certified ADHD coach. I offer intersectional, neuroaffirming coaching for neurodivergent people, with particular expertise in autism, ADHD and the combined AuDHD profile (+all the contradictions that come with that!).

I know what it’s like to spend YEARS pushing through, feeling like you’re on a treadmill with no control over the brakes. I also know how liberating it is to eventually realise: hang on, maybe I’m not the whole problem here and there are quite a few things I’m pretty damn good at.

After experiencing workplace discrimination and burnout, I struggled to find the kind of support I wanted.

So I created the kind of space I wish I’d had.

WHAT IS COACHING WITH ME LIKE?

Collaborative and non-hierarchical. We start by figuring out your brain together.

What do you actually care about? What absolutely drains you? And what have you been told you should do that actually doesn’t make any sense for you?

Understanding yourself comes first. From there, we find practical things to try, notice what happens and keep adapting.

That might mean exploring your values, new routines, boundaries, communication, strategies for work, ways to rest or completely new ways of understanding yourself and how you function best.

I’m not the expert on you. You are.

I bring coaching skills, knowledge of intersectional neurodivergence and professional experience.
Over time, that can mean figuring out who the hell you actually are underneath all the things you’ve learnt you should be (probably someone pretty great). It can mean having a more accurate view of what makes you brilliant, getting back in touch with your own instincts, understanding what you need, trusting yourself when something doesn’t feel right, and knowing how and when to advocate for yourself.
It can mean life feels less like something that just keeps happening to you. You’re actually in it, making active choices that fit your values, strengths and the things you genuinely enjoy.

There’s no set way you have to do coaching with me either.

Some people love structure, goals and accountability. Some find the slightest hint of a demand makes their whole brain go absolutely not. Both work.

You can walk and talk, colour, fidget, move around or leave the camera off while we chat.

The coaching adapts to you. You don’t have to adapt to the coaching.

Burnout is so hard. Constantly masking is hard. So is spending years believing you’re lazy, difficult, too sensitive, too much, or somehow getting life wrong.

But sometimes it doesn’t have to be that deep. There is so much room for lightness around the hard stuff.

Maybe you don’t know how to rest because, shock, traditional resting advice was never going to work for your brain!

WHAT’S MY ETHOS?

Neurodivergence doesn’t exist in a vacuum. My work is neuroaffirming, anti-oppressive and anti-racist, trauma-informed and rooted in disability justice. I offer a fully trans-inclusive, queer- and LGBTQ+ affirming coaching space, with a particular interest in the intersections between neurodivergence, gender, sexuality and other aspects of identity.

Sometimes you might want to build some executive functioning strategies or explore a new set of tools. We can absolutely do that as well as examine whether the environment, expectation or system might be part of the problem.

Understanding the difference helps us work out what you actually have agency over, what might need adapting or challenging, and what you can stop blaming yourself for.

WHAT ABOUT MY QUALIFICATIONS AND EXPERIENCE?

Before becoming a coach, I worked as a speech and language therapist for more than a decade across neurodiversity, disability, policy, research, advocacy, EDI and inclusion.

I’ve co-produced national resources for organisations including the National Autistic Society and Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health, successfully lobbied for changes in how autism is treated within the Mental Health Act, and written national guidance for NHS England.

I’m an ADDCA-certified ADHD coach, a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF), and I engage in regular professional supervision.

Clients describe me as warm, approachable and empowering.

If that sounds like your kind of coaching, I offer a free discovery call so we can see if we click.

I take on Access to Work clients, and In my private work, I also offer a small number of accessible-rate slots for people who need them.